I’m often asked how to deal with a co-worker that drives you bonkers.
Well… You can pick your nose, you can pick your friends, but you can’t pick your co-workers. It’s a job. Some people will annoy you.
If, on the other hand, you decide to deal with it (which by the way would make me very proud!) here’s some advice.
- Start with a positive
- Be specific
- Get their perspective
Here's what it might sound like.
"Our working relationship matters to me, we work so closely here at Awesome Co, I’d like us to get along better. When you and I work on X, Y seems to happen. What’s your take on it?"
The goal is to change behavior and people won't be open to change if they are feeling defensive. This conversation builds bridges not fences.
Another tip: If the thought of this makes your nervous, practice it on a friend - or your dog - first.